Should I go to see my sick grandfather?
My grandfather has been really sick lately. I haven't seen him in many years because he lives in Fort Wayne, Indiana, and I live in Atlanta, Georgia. My mom, my aunt and my grandmother are going to see him on Thursday. I would like to see him also, but I don't think I could stand to make such a long trip with my grandmother. She's always nagging at me about everything and always makes me feel bad. I really want to see my granddad, but I don't know if I could put up with her. She makes me feel horrible because she always points out my physical flaws. My mom said that if I don't go this Thursday, then we could make another trip with out my grandmother at the end of the month. Should I go this time or at the end of the month when I won't have to travel with my grandmother.
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1 :
If your grandfather would happen to not make it, you would really regret not visiting him. Though, if he's staying strong I'd wait to see him without your grandmother.
2 :
I would wait until the end of the month. It's so wrong for your Grandmother to be so mean, and I'm very sorry that you have to deal with that. Just remember, you are beautiful, just the way you are!
3 :
your call. bringe your ipod and ignore her, or you could accept that she will nag at you as a cost of going to se him. or you can take your mums advice and go later. but i have to put the question...is he so ill that he might not make it until you can travel minus gran? if not then def go later.
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Honestly you really should go see him, both times if possible. Ignore your grandmother's comments. She has lived life and you are just starting I assume. Let her have her snaps at you because you will be doing this for your grandfather. Just hum a tune to yourself in your head and just give her enough of a response to be recognized as your paying attention and the best thing to do with grandparents that are like that is to simply nod and agree and say "unhuh you're right" This is for your grandfather who should be happy you made it. Ignore her and do it for him. Hope that is helpful.
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Make the trip with your mom, aunt and grandmother. There might not be another trip. I'm sure that your grandmother THINKS she is being helpful, rather than hurtful (if that helps understand why). But here are some solutions for dealing with her: a) Wear an ipod the entire time and ignore her b) ask your mother or aunt to say something to your grandmother on your behalf c) ask her why she feels the need to point out your flaws.
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There may not be another time. Case in point: My grandfather was very ill with congestive heart failure and a leaky aortic heart valve. Death was imminent. This was during a time that I had no money in savings and no one was willing to help me travel to see him on his last days. The trip would have taken well over 2000 miles for the visit to see him for the last time, which would've been fine by me had I had the reserves. Did I feel guilty? Somehow, I didn't allow myself to feel guilt, but I did wish him peace through his cross-over. I was glad that my mother and uncle got to see him during his last days. That brought some measure of peace, but not everyone feels the way I do. Everyone's situation is entirely different. Also, my grandfather and I were never close, so, this decision was sort of a no-brainer. If you're close to your grandfather and you can come up with some strategies to tune out the "crazy-making" that your relatives (specifically your grandmother) inflicts upon you during the drive, then I would definitely not put it off. It's relative to what makes YOU feel comfortable. Waiting until the end of the month may, for whatever reason, not arrive. Things happen in life that put off plans. The time is now, and if you're so inclined, go. Find a way to tune out your grandmother's yackety-yacking.
7 :
Bring along an IPOD that you can listen to and tune out grandmother. He is alive now. Don't tempt fate and ask mom to speak to grandma. I thought I was the only person to call my grandfather, granddad.
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